When we go about setting goals and designing our dream life, we often think about external things. We think about what we want to accomplish, the things we want to have, the people we want to attract into our lives and the success you want to achieve.

There’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, if you have a detailed description of all of the above, you are already way ahead of 99% of the population who don’t set specific enough goals and review them often enough. (Are you in the former category or the latter? Hmmm.)

The Need to Look Within

Now its very easy when we are setting goals, to neglect a very important question. And that is to ask, “Who Do You Have To Become?” in order to acehive this goal. It is this inward looking question that has the greatest impact on your outer world results. This could make a WORLD of difference to your success rate in life.

Just the other day, I was thinking to myself, “Man, I am so lucky to have and enjoy all the success in my life”. My family, my health, my income sources and so on. In fact I was beginning to feel a little bit guilty because I am exposed to so many people struggling in some or all of these important areas in life.

And that’s when I caught myself and got the inspiration for this article. You see, I realized that everything of importance in my life did not result because of luck. Its because of the person I became in order to earn the right to enjoy these privileges. And therefore, it is my God given right. And so too it is your God given right to be able to become better than who you are today (no matter how great you already are) to enjoy even greater rewards in your life.

How This Affects Key Areas In Your Life

Let me get into specifics. Most business success can be traced back (in hindsight) to a few key moments or events. Meeting the right person, sealing a key agreement, closing a key sale and so on. I was looking at some of my most successful businesses and it was a result of a few key meetings and overcoming specific challenges at the time.

But then I thought, what if it was someone else who was in my shoes at that time. Would they have been able to capitalize on it? Could they deliver in that moment?

I juxtaposed all the people I know who are currently struggling in the area of business and put them in my shoes, I may be wrong but in my imagination they would not have been able to close those opportunities or even recognize it in the first place.

So the point is, if you don’t become the kind of person who can recognize opportunities and be able to do whatever it takes to close the deal when it matters, you will NEVER be successful in business. Because despite getting opportunity after opportunity, if you are not up to it, you will miss time and time again.

The same goes for relationships. Think of your ideal soulmate. Think of how they look, what are their values and think about all their habits, behaviors and virtues. Now ask yourself, if you met that person right now, “will they be equally attracted to you?”.

You see, whether its your business, your relationships, your health and your wealth, you need to become the person who fits into your own dreams.

How often do we read of people who hit the lottery only to end up bankrupt and suicidal in just a few years after the money has been spent? You see, that person did not grow to become a person who can manage money well.

They could have. I mean, I’m sure there are those who win the lottery and then manage to fill the gap by investing in themselves to learn how to manage wealth. But the key here is that if you fill that gap and become a person who is able to manage millions of dollars, then you don’t need to depend on winning the lottery. Get it?

What You Need To Do

So if you seriously want to succeed, you first need to be able to describe exactly what it is you want. That’s a given.

Secondly, you need to be able to accurately estimate, what skills, values, abilities, habits and resources you will need to be able to enjoy those opportunities. Skills like being able to communicate well, to be a great sales person, to be physically fit, to be creative and innovative, to be able to manage money well and so on.

Now it may not be easy for you to correctly identify these traits right from the beginning but any progress you make it the right direction will do. Each step you take towards becoming a better person in all areas of your life will reveal more information as to what you need to learn, do or be.

Finally, I would add, that it is in your best interest to find and study the people who already have EXACTLY what you want in life. Find a role model. And I don’t mean find a different person for business, a different person for relationships..etc. I mean find someone who has the EXACT lifestyle you want!

Read their biography, learn about their habits, their values. If possible, get them to mentor you. This will be the best way, realistically, to accomplish your goals.

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